I love the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. Thanksgiving might be my favorite but only because we gather to share our love, our memories, and eat a delicious meal together. So for me, there is definitely less stress, and less to prepare for. The only expectation is the meal which I love cooking!
It is also the beginning of the Christmas season. The weeks leading up to the Christmas holiday, for me, are so very beautiful with all the decorations and lights. I love listening to the Christmas music; many songs awaken lovely memories from my childhood. I also love giving gifts, whether they are made by my own hands with love, or a carefully chosen store bought gift.
But then there are all those folks that I hear complaining about how commercialized Christmas has become. Or they are complaining about all the parties to go to and the food they must prepare to take to these parties. There are also complaints about buying gifts for people that they probably don’t want and they can’t afford to buy. And it breaks my heart to hear them say they can’t wait for Christmas to be over.
Christmas is no different than any other situation in life, YOU GET OUT OF IT EXACTLY WHAT YOU PUT IN IT! So if you go into it with disgust, dislike, and grumpiness…. That is exactly what you are going to get out of it!!
I totally understand how the holidays can also be difficult to get through because we may have lost a loved one, or we might be alone and have no one to celebrate with. Been in both of those situations, I know it is not pleasant and can be heartbreaking and depressing.
So hopefully I have come up with some ideas that might be able to help you get through the upcoming holidays with a little less stress. Maybe this will help you have a little more love in your heart. And maybe you will actually learn to at least like the holidays.
- Eat & drink smart and healthy! This is so hard to do with all the baked goodies and homemade candies BUT try to resist making a meal out of unhealthy treats! Go ahead and have that small slice of pumpkin pie or cake, have one cookie, indulge in that one piece of fudge. But only allow yourself one treat so choose wisely! Snack on healthy things like veggies and fruit, nuts, a piece of cheese or some peanut butter for protein. Drink lots of water, add lemon for a little taste and detox. Do allow yourself a holiday cocktail, or two, but alternate with water. Waking up tomorrow with a headache or being hungover will just add to your stress level.
- Meal plan! As mentioned above you want to eat healthy but still allow some treats, so plan your day’s menu/diet so that you are continually eating healthy. Especially before you go to parties!! Make sure you are planning your family meals according to your schedule, use a crock pot or casserole recipes for busy days and nights. Make some casseroles, lasagna, anything that you can throw in your freezer. Later in the week you will be thankful that all you need to do is pull out a casserole to thaw in the fridge while you are at work, and then pop it in the oven when you get home.
- Parties! I have heard a lot of people complain and basically whine about all the parties they need to go to! Really? Please be thankful that you have friends and family that want to share the holiday with you, no one is promised a tomorrow. You do not always need to say yes to every party, it is okay to say no so that you can stay home and take care of you and your family or just to rest. If you really don’t want to go, then don’t. We all need some alone time, but we also need our friends and families too. Think of the memories and fun times you might have, think of some friends and families that you can reconnect with. Visit for as long as you want, eat healthy and drink healthy, be thankful for the friendships and have some fun!!
- Can you bring a covered dish? Yes, you can! You do not need to go overboard and try to be a gourmet chef! If you like to cook and prepare something fancy, great! If you don’t, then just take something simple like cheese and crackers, veggies, or check out the appetizers in the frozen section of your grocery store. There are some pretty good selections to choose from! I love to cook but there are times when I just do not have the time to prepare something, so this works out well and they are delicious.
- Shopping and gift giving. This IS enough to stress everyone out! You really need to be smart here, don’t just buy a gift for the sake of buying a gift. If that is your reason for gift giving, just stop! First, make a list of people that you want to give a gift, then think about them and what they like, jot down some ideas before you shop. Also, set a dollar amount that you are willing to spend on each gift and stick with your budget. Keep receipts, jot down names on the receipt/tags just in case you need to return something, and keep them all in an envelope. I usually suggest not giving clothes but if you are confident in that choice, then go for it! Also, keep an eye out for sales, use coupons. If you do not like wrapping your gifts, then bag’em! That is the easiest and the least stressful way to go. Keep in mind that a simple gift from the heart is all you really need to give.
- Teach your kids about giving and receiving. This is a challenge for most parents. We don’t want our kids growing up to be materialistic and greedy; and we want to teach them about giving too. Set boundaries for what they are asking for, have them organize and clean out what they already have, show them how fortunate they already are for what they have now. Give your family members limits on what they can spend on your kids. If you have older kids and your budget allows, have your kids donate gifts to the needy, a shelter, or sponsor a family for Christmas. Have them volunteer at a food bank or as a family take a few bags to the food bank. Living in today’s world that is so materialist, I think this is something we all need to do. Also, teach you kids the value of saying thank you as well as how to gracefully be thankful for a gift that they just unwrapped but don’t like!
- Stress-less kids? This is a time that kids are super excited! Remember when you were a kid at Christmas? They have a lot of stimuli from all the toy ads on TV, so it might be a good idea to limit their time in front of the TV. Sit down and chat with them about their wants, desires, expectations and then chat about giving to the less fortunate. Talk to them about your childhood memories and realize that you are creating and shaping theirs. Involve them in decisions about new traditions. Make sure they are eating healthy, drinking plenty of water, limit their treats and make sure they are getting enough rest and sleep. This can also be a busy time in school with reports and projects needing to be completed before their holiday break so make sure they are getting enough time to complete their school work. Get them outside for exercise and fresh air! This is also a time for the little germ carriers to be sick, not fun for the holiday.
- Traditions! I love family traditions! And I love creating new traditions! Think back to when you were a child and the things that you used to do as a family, create those wonderful warm memories with your kids!! Slow down and enjoy the holiday season, celebrate it lovingly, and involve the kids! Look online or on Pinterest for some new ideas. Have fun!
- Physical and emotional health. Make sure you are getting your exercise too! Get those kids outside and play, walk, hike, whatever you can find to do. Don’t forget about your gym membership, even if you only have 30 minutes to use the treadmill or lift a few weights, or if you’re lucky enough to have a pool to swim a few laps. Every little bit helps. Don’t forget about your mental and emotional health. For as much enjoyment and beauty as some find in the holiday, there is also disappointment, sadness and loneliness. Meditate, pray, go to church, talk to friends, talk to a professional if you need to. There is no shame in that! Try yoga, sit and read or just sit and look at the tree and drink in the beauty and silence of the room.
- Keep your life and the holiday in focus. Easier said than done, I get it. But try. It’s so easy to compare your holiday life to others and be sad that you don’t have what someone else has. Life isn’t fair, but this is your life and you only have one shot at it so stay focused. You don’t have to have a lot of friends or a big bank account to enjoy the very beautiful and simple holiday. Celebrate with the love of the family and friends that you are still blessed to have. Don’t get caught up in the commercialism, that’s not what the holidays are about. Remember, what you put into this holiday gig is what you are going to get out of it.
Live and love well my friends!